Love in the Face of Hate | #MyFridayStory №310

Frans Nel
3 min readNov 10, 2023
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In this journey called life, you’re bound to encounter folks who either adore you or, well, not so much.

Ever found yourself wondering why someone seems to despise you for no apparent reason? You know, when you’re minding your own business, spreading good vibes, and still manage to rub someone the wrong way?

I grew up across the street from an Afrikaans Primary School sports ground. As a little 5 or 6-year-old, I’d park myself on the pavement outside, captivated by the sporting escapades of my peers. Little did I know, my family’s choice to speak English would make me a target. The Afrikaans kids, for some reason, took offence, hurling insults, and even going as far as spitting at me. Children can be so cruel.

Fast forward to the corporate world — a place where grown-ups are supposed to have it all figured out. I once worked at a company with not one but two CEOs. One was a buddy, the other an acquaintance from my past business endeavours. All seemed well during the interviews when I met with the other CEO, but as time passed, subtle signs of animosity emerged. Micro-aggressions became the norm, and it felt like I was tiptoeing through a field of hidden disdain.

One Friday, during what was supposed to be a casual gathering with drinks and pizzas, things took a turn. As the libations flowed, tensions rose, and I found myself caught in a literal chokehold from that CEO. The intensity of the grip was undeniable, and I could see the challenge in his eyes — taunting me to react. It was a tough spot, and I knew retaliation would cost me my job.

Throughout my life, I’ve encountered my fair share of folks who just don’t fancy me. It used to puzzle me, but as I hit the ripe age of 60, a revelation struck. Some people harbour hidden agendas and dislike you for exposing their true selves. These individuals are on a mission to discredit you, trip you up, and brand you a fraud. Despite their vindictiveness, my mantra became clear: love them anyway.

My Mom told me that being a child of God means loving everyone, without exception. So, when faced with haters and enemies, I choose love. Even when the friend CEO warned me that his partner wasn’t on my side, I stuck to my principles. Love, even in the face of adversity, has a way of cultivating lasting friendships. Although it never worked on him, it has with many other folks.

So, here’s to navigating the turbulent waters of life with love, understanding, and compassion. Remember, not everyone has to be your fan, and that’s perfectly okay. Just embrace the journey, haters and all!

Have an awesome weekend and please remember to be generous! 😄

As always, thanks for reading 🙏

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